Discovery by Trials

I want to write something for you that will be worth your time. I'm trying very hard to rack my brain with every topic, scenario, or story that might come in handy for this post. And yet, the longer I stare at the screen, the fewer the ideas become. I know the reason, but I don't want to admit it. I'm afraid of what it might mean—that you might take it the wrong way. Unfortunately, I don't have … [Read more...]

The Need for Honesty

If you follow my writing, some of you may remember Tethered Waves, a blog about marriage and my struggles concerning it. In all honesty, it was the best blog I ever started. It caused me to seriously consider what type of husband, man, and role model I was, and it it taught me more about myself than anything else I've ever started. Unfortunately, a few months ago, I had to stop writing—or at … [Read more...]

Times of Reflection

The weather is cooling down, and even this morning I awoke to soft clouds dotting the mountain ranges, and the damp air saturating everything it touches. I love autumn. But that doesn't do it justice—I literally love the fall time. Besides pumpkin spice latte's taking over my usual choice, there is also the wonderful time of holidays, when family and friends seem to burst with warmth. It … [Read more...]

Welcome to the World

It’s 12:45 in the morning, on August 7th, 2014. As I write this, you lay asleep in the other room with your mother. No, you haven’t been born yet, but you will be by the end of the day (assuming things go as planned). You were due yesterday, but you decided to stay cozy and warm inside of your small cocoon — I can’t say that I blame you, though. I wish that I could say you are coming into a … [Read more...]

10 Years Later

It’s been 33 minutes since the clock blinked midnight, and sleep is still escaping my grasp. The heater vent just rattled to life, giving the darkly encompassed room a sense of ethereal ambiance. Even as I write, my wife lies beside me, her rhythmic breathing coinciding with the sound of my typing. On a normal night, my mind would long since have taken the previous state of the vent—quiet, … [Read more...]

My Mother Told Me: Think Slowly

I used to love writing on paper. Now I hate it. The reason is simple, and can be summed up in one word: impatience. When was the last time you wrote down your thoughts on paper? I know that for me, it was last week. Some might call that a good amount, but I say it’s pitiful. But let’s get to the root of the issue. It isn’t about the act of writing on paper, or about writing online. Each … [Read more...]

Why Being Terrified of Leadership is a Good Thing

Everyone know's we are the worst personal critiques. Ask someone how you're doing at something, and chances are they will tell you an answer better than what you were bracing for. But this doesn't help the crushing scrutiny we place on ourselves when aspiring to carry out a calling that we know is a part of our greater purpose on this Earth. One day, before we took that step, we were … [Read more...]

A Beacon of Peace

I tend to stress out as much as the next guy. Recently, with a child on the way, my stress level has soared to new heights as I deal with the problem of little space, changing finances, and an unknown future. While all of this is more than likely normal, I've noticed something interesting when it comes to family life. On days when I'm feeling confident and worry-free, so does my wife, and … [Read more...]

Your Man-Cave is Killing Your Manhood

I remember my first man-cave. Nestled in the basement of my home, it was my place of seclusion, reflection, and entertainment. I would often retreat there, even daily, looking forward to "zoning out" in front of the XBOX, and playing hours of video games. It was the perfect place where I could escape all of my responsibilities and pressures of life. Although, looking back, I now realize I … [Read more...]

I Loved My Wife More Than God…Or So I Thought

About 6 months ago, when I was reflecting on my priorities, I began dealing with the difficult struggle of finding a sort of equilibrium between how much I loved God, and how much I loved my wife. Being a guy, I did like most guys do, and compartmentalized my relationships into categories based on importance. I loved God, surely, but the tearing of my heart in two directions—being fully in love … [Read more...]